| Dating is a crazy thing. Most people on our | | | | little places still work too. You can have her |
| society haven't figured it out.But it's pretty cool once | | | | some you around a bit, which is good.As I mentioned |
| you've gotten it | | | | earlier, I like coffeeshops. |
| figured, like my good friend and parter Vincent | | | | Starbucks-esque places are okay, but I really |
| DiCarlo.Allow me to share with you Vin's Three Rules | | | | like artistic coffee shops, with different music |
| of | | | | and fun things to look at. My favorite coffeeshop |
| Dating:1) Have it be convenient for you.2) Keep it | | | | of all time had different music playing every |
| inexpensive.3) Make sure you can talk where you're | | | | time I went, interesting local art on the walls, |
| at.Or, if you prefer, The Three C's of Dating:C1) | | | | and one of the large unisex bathrooms had |
| Convenient.C2) Cheap.C3) Conversation.This will give | | | | floor-to-ceiling chalkboards lining all four |
| you the best chance to get the | | | | walls. People would write poetry and draw |
| girl. Dates that are not Convenient for you will | | | | pictures on the chalkboards, or just sign their |
| make you seem like you're working hard to impress | | | | name. Let me tell you, my friend, that was the |
| her, or of low status. For this reason, don't | | | | easiest bathroom in the world to get your date |
| drive three hours to see her, and certainly don't | | | | into with you!Another date I like: Window shopping. If |
| plan a grand production with a limo and a string | | | | you walk |
| quartet for your first dat.Cheap! Cheap is good. | | | | through a mall, there's going to be plenty of |
| Cheap is no pressure. A | | | | interesting stores. You can have a cup of coffee |
| woman would rather have a pleasant walk through a | | | | if you like coffee (or tea or hot chocolate or |
| park with a guy that's no pressure than go out to | | | | whatever), and walk around looking at interesting |
| eat an expensive restaurant that's heavy | | | | things. One of my favorite shops is a large |
| pressure. As a general rule, the more something | | | | kitchen shop with all sorts of cool things. |
| costs, the more pressure is involved. Also, women | | | | They've got all sorts of crazy cooking |
| don't want to feel like you're trying to buy | | | | instruments, various pots and steamers for all |
| their attention. For these reasons, it's actually | | | | different types of cuisine, recipes and sauces , |
| better to keep dates cheap. I'm not saying BE | | | | cool looking plates, and anything and everything |
| cheap, I'm saying go on inexpensive dates.And | | | | else you could imagine. From there, it's really |
| conversation, the all important thing that | | | | easy to situationally relevantly talk about what |
| lets you find about each other. You need a date | | | | she can cook, and what she's going to cook for |
| that lets conversation go smoothly and easily.Here's a | | | | you!Walk into whatever stores you please. Just be |
| pop quiz - What are the two most common | | | | careful with Victoria's Secret: Vincent once was |
| dates?If you answered movies and dinner, you're | | | | in Victoria's with a girl he was on a date with, |
| correct. But both violate cardinal rules of | | | | holding up lingerie and talking about she'd look |
| dating.With a movie, there's no chance for | | | | good in. His date was loving it, eating it up, |
| conversation. | | | | but then her friend walked over! Yikes, Vin tells |
| For two hours, you're sitting there in the dark | | | | me the girl blushed pretty hard.Other places to go: |
| and can't really talk. That's all well and good | | | | Walks through parks, and by |
| if you're with your girlfriend, but on the first | | | | rivers and ponds. Free or cheap baseball games, |
| few dates, you don't want that. And as an | | | | either a local team's or even a nearby school's. |
| additional negative, movies are getting more and | | | | Iceskating and rollerskating are actually pretty |
| more expensive these guys. It could cost $30 for | | | | good first dates. They're cheap if you go on |
| two tickets, popcorn, and drinks these days. How | | | | their discount night (it's Tuesday at my favorite |
| it costs that much is beyond me, but that's too | | | | rollerskating place), it's convenient for me, and |
| expensive for a first day for sure.Dinner. Well, dinner's | | | | it's great for conversation. And by the way, I'm |
| not cheap. Even cheap | | | | not exactly the best rollerskater in the world. |
| dinner's not cheap. So she might feel like you're | | | | In fact, I'll admit it: I'm downright terrible.But it works well |
| trying to buy her attention, which is always bad. | | | | anyway! I say to her as we're |
| It makes women uncomfortable, and makes her think | | | | walking in, "Okay, I can't skate at all, so |
| you're of low status. Like you need to buy her | | | | you're going to have to kinda 'be the guy' and |
| attention.But here's something many people don't | | | | hold my hand and make sure I don't fall over," |
| realize | | | | said half-kiddingly. And to top it off, when we |
| about dinner: It's bad for conversation. You're | | | | get our skates, I say, "You got this one?" |
| sitting directly across from each other with very | | | | Meaning, "Are you paying?" They do most of the |
| little subject matter except for menus. There's | | | | time, and it sets a good frame.Alright, so you've gone |
| lots of pressure, and if the conversation slows | | | | on a fun date or two with |
| down, it can be awkward, which wouldn't be the | | | | her. First you met for coffee, then walked around |
| case in many of the dates I'm about to suggest | | | | and went window shopping and looked at stores, |
| for you. Planning dinner as part of a date is no | | | | had a bite to eat, and parted. Second date, you |
| good, so leave it alone.Good Dates:Remember, you | | | | went rollerskating or to one of those fun museums |
| want your dates to be Convenient, | | | | like the Spy Museum in D.C. Now, you want to have |
| Cheap, and be able to have some nice | | | | her over to your place. What's a good date for |
| Conversation. How to do that?A favorite 'date | | | | that?Cooking dinner with her.One of the best dates |
| suggestion' from me is coffee. I | | | | before you sleep with a |
| like coffee, since you've got options. You go get | | | | woman. Not so good first date, but after that, |
| a cup of java with her on a Saturday afternoon. | | | | it's great. Now, I don't want to hear you can't |
| If she shows up and turns out to be the type of | | | | cook - I can't, either. I make exactly one dish |
| girl you don't like (either she's not physically | | | | well that doesn't involve grilling. But that's |
| your type on further inspection, or has nothing | | | | all I need. I make a spaghetti with a mushroom |
| going on upstairs) then you can leave no problem.But | | | | and onion meat sauce, and French bread. It's not |
| if she turns out to be an awesome girl? After | | | | hard.Learn one dish, or just have a general idea of |
| coffee, you can go grab a slice of pizza. Yes, | | | | what you want to make. Then go over to her place |
| it's okay to eat on dates... making your date | | | | with the ingrediants, or have her come over to |
| itself getting a meal is bad, but if you're | | | | yours. From there, give her duties as you cook. I |
| spending time together and get hungry, go eat. | | | | have my date stir the pasta or sauce while I dice |
| You're basically treating her like someone you're | | | | up vegetables and get the meat ready.After we |
| very comfortable with. If you went to get coffee | | | | make a mess cooking, we wash up and chat |
| with a close friend, or one of your relatives | | | | waiting for dinner to finish. Then we eat dinner, |
| that you like, and got hungry, you'd say let's go | | | | and maybe a little fresh fruit at the end. Having |
| grab a bite to eat. No pressure there.Here's a great | | | | her feed you strawberries is a nice touch if you |
| line if you're at coffee: "You | | | | can pull it off.And from there, use your imagination. |
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| too, let's grab a slice of pizza." If she says | | | | comes time to bring them to the bedroom, remember |
| no, you say, "That's okay, you can watch me eat." | | | | to use situational relevance. So you can either |
| The second one, in particular, gets wonderful | | | | start kissing her in the living room, then bring |
| results and you just eat something light in front | | | | her by the hand to the bedroom, or you can say |
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